Categories: Grief, Death
Had the privilege to be educated on helping with the grief process. Everyone is unique, so everyone experiences grief in a unique way. No timeline for grief, and after one loses his/her beloved ones, they'll become grievers. At some point in life, we all become grievers. Feelings can be extremely complex... I learn not to say "I know how you feel...." or try to alleviate one's pain. Give them space and time.
After visiting the Forest Lawn Memorial Park/Mortuary (forestlawn.com), *a very good association, even though it's huge and appears to be expensive, it's reasonable* last night I dreamed of my grandpa (外公). 我夢到牽著他的手, 讓他倚靠著走路, 就好像今年暑假去泰國玩時那樣. 然後我跟他說, "阿公, 我以後要叫我先生這樣扶著你走", 阿公就笑笑. He's the only living grandparent I have... I think I can never really know what he had gone through in my grandma's unexpected death years ago. I don't want to be all optimistic about the meanings he probably saw in my grandma's life changes or even her death although I know it is significant. There're just so much more sophisticated factors that I'll never comprehend in their relationships. But there're perhaps things I can do with my limited ability. Lord, I cry out for his salvation in You!
今年奶奶過世, 在台灣有時我的感覺是麻木的, ... 我不敢去感受感覺. It was a comfort hearing different reactions from the pastor. Everyone who knows how to love knows how to grief. I thank God for what I have.
Had the privilege to be educated on helping with the grief process. Everyone is unique, so everyone experiences grief in a unique way. No timeline for grief, and after one loses his/her beloved ones, they'll become grievers. At some point in life, we all become grievers. Feelings can be extremely complex... I learn not to say "I know how you feel...." or try to alleviate one's pain. Give them space and time.
After visiting the Forest Lawn Memorial Park/Mortuary (forestlawn.com), *a very good association, even though it's huge and appears to be expensive, it's reasonable* last night I dreamed of my grandpa (外公). 我夢到牽著他的手, 讓他倚靠著走路, 就好像今年暑假去泰國玩時那樣. 然後我跟他說, "阿公, 我以後要叫我先生這樣扶著你走", 阿公就笑笑. He's the only living grandparent I have... I think I can never really know what he had gone through in my grandma's unexpected death years ago. I don't want to be all optimistic about the meanings he probably saw in my grandma's life changes or even her death although I know it is significant. There're just so much more sophisticated factors that I'll never comprehend in their relationships. But there're perhaps things I can do with my limited ability. Lord, I cry out for his salvation in You!
今年奶奶過世, 在台灣有時我的感覺是麻木的, ... 我不敢去感受感覺. It was a comfort hearing different reactions from the pastor. Everyone who knows how to love knows how to grief. I thank God for what I have.
I did call him once afterwards, and I told him I would call him more frequent. 比起以前好像都沒啥打, 只要有打就是frequent lol
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